This Is Why You NEVER Apologize

You’d think the right thing to do is apologize to someone who got hurt.  It’s a good, Christian thing to do.  Simcha Fisher gets to crow after getting a better apology out of Christendom College following her ghastly posts on the alleged rape epidemic caused by teenagers not being able to hold hands.  Still, it’s not nice to assume that just because there’s serious problems with Fisher’s account that we should assume that these women are lying.  What harm is there to apologize for not doing better?  We can always do better.

But the lesson is there down in the comments:

Any idea then, why he apologized, if they didn’t really fail some of their students?

Apologies are admissions of guilt; it doesn’t matter if you really did anything or not.  Now they’ve got you.  Now they’re calling for the president of the college to resign.  And when he resigns what then?  There’ll be some other demand and another and another.  Until it’s not the same college anymore.  Or it doesn’t exist at all.

A little thing to note: Simcha Fisher is such a good journalist that she links to a rape victim whom she refers to as an “anonymous blogger,” an anonymous blogger whose #MeToo post is signed with her name.  (Archive link just in case.)  That’s some tiptop reporting there, Simcha.

She’s smelled blood in the water and probably the increased traffic from stirring up a controversy.  It’s not over yet:

We are currently working on corroborating seven other stories of sexual assault of Christendom students, including students who are currently enrolled at Christendom. These reports were grossly mishandled by the administration that is still in office.

I wonder… why this college?  Has she been doing this other small, Catholic colleges and I just missed it?  I didn’t see anything about it.  So what’s so special about this particular college that it warrants all this time and attention and “investigative” bloggerism?

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#MeToo Comes to Catholic Education

Simcha Fisher has two rather long articles talking about three rapes/sexual assaults which allegedly happened to students of Christendom College, a small Catholic college in Virginia.

Part 1
Part 2

It’s best if you take the time to read it as I’m not going to go through them bit by bit but rather focus on some points that they raised in my mind.

The tone and focus of the articles puts a definite spin of blame on the college’s draconian anti-PDA rules and sex-segregated dorms. The rules caused the women to be raped because she had to go off campus to be raped– I mean hold hands with her boyfriend. Obviously the policy should change. This college can then become like other colleges and the women can be raped in their dorm rooms instead of in cars. Because women never get raped on campuses where they’re allowed to hold hands and sit next to each other. The implication that keeping kids from kissing in the cafeteria causes this is beyond stupid.

The articles also faults the college for not have done anything about a rape which occurred off campus and which the victim didn’t bother to report to anyone until long after they could do anything about it. The rape occurred in a national park and was under federal law enforcement jurisdiction. The park LE told the victim there was pretty much nothing they could do. So if the feds can’t do anything, what do you expect the college to do? Take the girl’s word with no evidence and throw the guy out?

A great deal is made out of Christendom not having a policy in their student handbook on how sexual assault is dealt with. This is decidedly naive of the college’s part. Did they foolishly assume that since they were Catholic that it could be understood that students weren’t supposed to be going around committing mortal sins on other students? What does rather put the college’s actions in a bad light is a comment on Christendom’s “apology” posted later which claims the school expels students for having sex period. If, as the article implies (and this coming from Simcha Fisher is a big IF), members of the college staff did believe that the one girl was pulling a “regret” instead of it being rape, then both she and the alleged rapist should have been expelled anyway. But again we’re stuck on the problem of how on earth they could prove what did or didn’t happen.

“Victim blaming” in the current zeitgeist is one of the worst sins possible to commit, but the accounts the women give are not so perfect that you can’t find fault with them.

Being assaulted or raped is a terrible, psychologically damaging thing to happen to a person. The women talk about being unable to attend class because their rapist will be in the room. So why would they come back to the campus the next year when they could have escaped? When they could have stayed home and not spent thousands of dollars in tuition for the pleasure of being trapped on what looks like a rather small campus with a rapist?

I have come across other accounts where women claim to have been “raped” where they allege the man forced them to preform oral sex on him. There is a serious problem with this. The victim in these cases has to… perform an action. She has to do something as opposed to being pinned down and having something forced on her. Now, she is being threatened but, if I remember from my theology classes right, this kind of action is still voluntary in the weak sense. Just because you’re in fear of bodily harm doesn’t absolve you of all guilt in performing an immoral act. If someone put a gun to my head and said they’d kill me if I didn’t murder someone else, I don’t get a free pass to murder them just because I was in fear of my life. This is all unpleasantly ironic given the references in the article to St Maria Goretti who was stabbed to death fighting off a guy trying to rape her.

The implication I take from the article is one that I’m sure the authors would be horrified by and which I do not like at all:

Women have no agency.

Zip, zero, nada. They can’t do anything and it’s not their fault anyway. This college was supposed to have somehow, magically made the world completely safe for them. They couldn’t fight back against their rapists. They didn’t even understand what the word “rape” meant.  You even see this in a couple of the comments: these women behaved the way they did because they were taught to behave like that.  They have pushed every responsibility onto someone else.  The college, the policies, the culture, anything.

If you were raped or sexually assaulted, I’m very sorry this happened to you.  But sometimes you can’t blame anyone else except the rapist.  It isn’t possible to create a completely safe world.  We can try with all our might and it will not happen.  Catholics of all people should understand this.  We live in a fallen world.  Could this college have responded better?  With the obviously slanted take the Fishers give the articles, it’s hard to say for certain.  Maybe.  Can the college change to prevent future rapes?  Most likely: NO.  I’m tempted to say: yes, if they become a single sex institution, but if this were an all girls school, the girls would still go off campus and get raped.  Because people are bad and there will always be bad people.  Women need to remember this and recognize that they too have a part in keeping themselves safe.

Feminists: Treating the image of history’s most important and holy woman with disrespect empowers women!

If you thought the recent women’s march was bad…

US feminists are being one-upped by the vulgarity and blasphemy of the Argentine feminists.  International Women’s Day was just marked in the US by encouraging women to protest “inequality” and stay home from work or otherwise shirk responsibilities, not by staging a “bloody fake abortion on a woman dressed as Virgin Mary.”

Feminists in pink masks pretended to commit an abortion on a woman dressed as the Virgin Mary outside a northern Argentina cathedral as part of an International Women’s Day protest last week…

Meanwhile, in Buenos Aires, participants in an International Women’s Day march tried to set the city’s cathedral on fire. They attacked a lone man who held a Vatican flag and tried to defend the cathedral.

Or maybe those US feminists are still in the running:

At the Women’s March in Washington, D.C. in January 2017, a protester carried a sign depicting Our Lady of Guadalupe as a bloody vagina.

Yet again these “ladies” show their priorities.  How does insulting an important female holy figure further female “empowerment?”  Perverting and insulting the image of the Virgin Mary doesn’t exactly translate into empowering or respecting women.

An Unlikely Alliance

Finally at least one feminist group has woken up to the insanity of supporting the “rights” of “trans-people” to use the bathroom of their choice.  Girl Power on Girls’ Showers:

If you think a partnership between PETA and the red-meat eaters of America would be odd, try this one on for size: the Women’s Liberation Front (WoLF) and the Family Policy Alliance. That’s right. If there’s one thing President Obama’s outrageous bathroom mandate has accomplished, it’s bringing together all kinds of unlikely viewpoints. Feminists and Christians aren’t exactly natural allies, but when it comes to protecting the safety and privacy of America’s girls, count them as comrades. The idea that men and boys should be able to walk right into girls’ locker rooms, showers, and restrooms is so offensive that the two sides are teaming up to topple the Obama policy.

On Fox News’s “Tucker Carlson Show,” WoLF Board Chair Kara Dansky explained how objectionable the idea is. “We think that ‘women and girls’ are a meaningful category worthy of civil rights protection. If we define sex, under Title IX, to mean gender identity, what we’re essentially says is that ‘woman and girl’ can mean anyone who self-identifies as ‘woman and girl,’ which makes the category ‘women and girls’ meaningless…” Then, in a bit of irony, Dansky went on to talk about the unreasonable labels LGBT activists put on them for defecting. “We’re called transphobic bigots because we ask questions about gender identity,” Dansky said. “We’re asking questions and we’re standing up for women and girls. And that seems to be not permitted.” Welcome to our world! Without the facts and biology stacked against them, liberals have to resort to distractions and name-calling.

Catholic Japanophiles Rejoice!

So awesome!

Catholic Church Beatifies First Japanese Samurai Warlord

In a historical first, the Catholic Church has beatified a Japanese samurai warlord who died in exile after refusing to renounce his Christian faith.

As an official envoy of Pope Francis, Cardinal Angelo Amato presided over the ceremony for Justo Takayama Ukon Tuesday in Osaka, Japan, with some 12,000 people in attendance. As a lead-up to canonization, beatification officially places Takayama on the road to being declared a saint.

Pope Francis had signed a decree on January 21, 2016 clearing the way for Ukon to be beatified as a martyr.

Born in 1552, Ukon was a renowned feudal warlord who protected Christians at a time when authorities attempted to stamp out all vestiges of the religion, exiling missionaries and all Christian samurai who would not abandon their faith.

When Shogun Toyotomi Hideyoshi came to power and outlawed ‎the practice of Christianity by an edict in 1614, Ukon ‎refused to follow the great feudal lords and renounce his faith. As a result, he ‎lost his properties, position, ‎social status and respectability and was eventually forced into ‎exile.

With 300 other Japanese ‎Christians, Ukon fled to Manila where, just 40 days after his arrival, he fell ‎ill and died on February 4, 1615.

Blessed Takayama-sama pray for us

What do you call a “conspiracy theory” when it starts to look like the truth?

Several years ago I might have thought this seemed far-fetched, but it’s hard to ignore the mounting evidence.  Steve Jalsevac outlines the “surprising real reason for the hate against Donald Trump,” tying many entities and movements together as a concerted effort to destroy what’s left of Western Civilization and Christianity.  Is he right?  What do you think?

Can Trump and his administration endure this near satanic, on-going assault? Many prayed for him during the election and he astonishingly prevailed. It is clear, despite the president’s personal flaws, that he is doing many right things. He would not be so intensely hated by all these people if he were not.

Even more prayers are needed to protect, guide and inspire Trump and his administration to stay the course and serve the Will of God. Prayers are needed for his continued conversion – especially on the homosexual/transgender rights issues.

There is also great need to pray for the physical safety of President Trump and his leadership team.

The election of Donald Trump has caused the decades-old war that has been waged on what is left of Christian civilization to be suddenly revealed for the ugly and evil war that it has been all along. Until now the war has been very one-sided, with the one-world progressives generally being the only ones fighting, as the relatively passive Christians and their non-Christian allies have given naive, timid and disorganized resistance.

The election of Donald Trump has suddenly brought everything into the open that was already underway. It has forced a necessary climax in this world-wide culture war.

This is good. But the “good” must now respond by finally starting to earnestly wage a defensive war to completely defeat the one-worlders. It is time to wake up to the reality of our collective and individual responsibilities in this international conflict between good and evil.

It is not possible to overstate the gravity of the situation.

Keep in mind that in 1976 (showing how long this has been on-going) Pope John Paul II, as then Cardinal Karol Wojtyla, warned,

“We are now standing in the face of the greatest historical confrontation humanity has ever experienced. I do not think that the wide circle of the American Society, or the whole wide circle of the Christian Community realize this fully. We are now facing the final confrontation between the Church and the anti-church, between the gospel and the anti-gospel, between Christ and the Antichrist.”
Donald Trump did not start the conflict. He has merely brought it all out into the open for us to respond to.